old enough to remember when smut was called ‘lemons’ but young enough that i had absolutely no business knowing that smut was called ‘lemons’ at the time
Everyone should aspire to a cat’s understanding of healthy relationships
-they are vocal about their emotional as well as physical needs (alerting you when they need affection or entertainment in addition to when they need food), demonstrating an excellent example of self care and open communication
– they can enjoy being in a space with you while you’re each doing your own thing, demonstrating the healthy boundaries and separate interests
– they also like learning about what you’re doing and being involved in your hobbies (e.g. sitting on your laptop, cuddling while you read a book or knit a scarf or play a game)
-they consistently enforce their boundaries. first with nonverbal communication, then verbal (hissing/growling), then violence (scratching/biting) when needed, demonstrating that it’s 100% appropriate to defend your bodily autonomy by any means necessary, even against those you love and depend on.
-they demonstrate the importance of ongoing consent by respecting their ability to change their mind during physical affection and stop at any point
Did I ever mention that I walked into my local yarn shop the other day wearing a “knit fast, die warm” shirt and the old ladies in there were just tickled by it?
I’ve said this before but literally my favorite thing is when well meaning cishet guys find out im trans and immediately start calling me dude/bro/man in every sentence
me: hi
one of the only cishet guys in my predominantly gay/trans friend group: hey bro. you’re such a cool man bro dude. we’re just Guys Being Dudes over here lol